Refusal to look after child when ill

[mumsarenumber1]

I am about to go into mediation for the care of my son. My ex recently refused to look after him because he was ill stating that "he couldn't afford to take any sick days off" as he was worried he would get ill from my son. It was his rostered time on with him and he would have only had to give him medicine. Will this affect him being able to take him for long periods of time? I do not feel safe to let him take him for long periods of time now in case my son gets ill.

[Saska]

Hi. Are you about to start mediation for a parenting plan/orders for your son? Hope that goes ok.
Is a pathetic response from the ex who obvously just didn't want to look after a sick kid. Isn't that what parents do? Sigh!! Watch to see if he tries to put anything like that into the parenting plan, as if you have to work or do something while he has your son, you will always have the worry that he will say he cant have him if he has a cold or minor complaint.

[Mum22]

I am a little unclear, if it was his rostered time with your son, sick or not, he should have taken him...using the excuse of not wanting to take time off to look after a sick child, priceless! hope you have this in writing, or text, keep this for any court appearances, I think a judge / magistrate will love that - dad doesn't want the responsibility of 'normal' parenting! It could help you in the long run with final orders etc.

[mumsarenumber1]

Thanks for replies
Yes it was his rostered time on - we made a mutual agreement on paper....this goes until mediation starts this week. I have his refusal on a text mesage. It seems he's backing off anyway as I think he's starting to realise it's not as easy as he thought to look after a child - even when they are not ill. Doesn't really help that I'm 8 months pregnant - really needed more help than ever. And yes - imagine if he took him and then my son fell ill and he rang me to take him back - I wouldn't be able to plan anything - like ever!!! It's pathetic and unrealistic.
My ex started at first saying he would keep my son, then to 50/50, now its every other weekend. I just hope he doesn't drop off completely. My son needs his dad. What are they like?!?!

[Mum22]

What you've stated is quite typical, it seems. It's all start with 'I want it all', to '50/50' to 'only when I can be bothered'...