I need some help and I'm hoping i might get some understanding from this forum. please let me explain the situation first before everyone just jumps in and says "no no it's morally wrong, you have an obligation to tell the dad". (these are the sort of things i was told on a previous forum)
I have been in a VERY long distance relationship with a guy for seven months, i have always been faithful to him but everytime i see him (which is about ones a month) i learn something new about him and it's never anything I agree with, to be honest I am seriously considering ending it with him. this is what i need some advice about.
in my opinion the man I have been seeing is a racist and a bigot. he has admitted he has broken the law to help out a friend and would do it again if the situation ever was to arise (I hate with a passion Lying, I cannot stand it in any form) He has a 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship and he outright refuses for me to meet her because quote " I think she would ask a lot of questions and not understand why mummy and daddy arn't together" yet I have spoken to her on skype, but he has since stopped that also.
Now I have found out i am pregnant to him after i found out all these things about him, (before i was pregnant) we were having a conversation about education, and i asked him if you had the option of sending your child to a religious school that guaranteed that your child would could out of the end more ready and successful for the working environment OR you had the option to send your child to a non reglious school that cost exactly the same but didn't guarantee anything at the end, which school would send you child to any why. he said quote "I would rather my child grew up in the gutter system than send them to a religious school" appertently he thinks that ALL religion is wrong, now i myself do not identify with any religion but i want the best for my child and if that meant sending them to a religious school then so be it. It just seems to me that his views are more important and correct to him than anyone else. i do not wish to be with a man like that at all. and i am sorry that i didn't find out sooner.
But now i'm pregnant and I am having serious thoughts about not telling him and just breaking it off with him now so he doesn't find out. I'm not about the money i don't want child support or anything like that. I just don't want my child to grow up hate filled like his father. I am worried that if and when i tell him he will want to take control of the situation and will do everything in his power (he has a lot of money) to try and get custody, i cant fight that, and my fear is that if i do tell him and he takes me to court for shared custody that when the child spends time with him the child will learn his bad ways.
What do i do?
I know this is long but i really need some help